I have what was once described as “dish water” blonde hair. In the summer, if I can get out of the office/house, it can turn a nice golden blonde. But for the most part, my hair is a little drab and dull. And I’m slowly going gray, especially in my bangs. “Well,” you say, “it sounds like you should color your hair, Idgie.” And yes, I agree with you. I should color my hair.
But, I have this neurosis. My mother had the perfect light brown hair when I was a child. It was soft and beautiful. And, when she was roughly my age, she started going gray and coloring it. She’s never been able to match her original hair color and I’m not sure she even wants to. And now that I have a little boy, I am concerned that he’ll never be able to say “My mom had the best hair color.” (I understand that it is very unlikely that my son will ever say those words. That’s why I called it a “neurosis” and not a “completely logical argument”.)
Despite my little issue, I am moving closer and closer to calling up my stylist and booking a color appointment as the gray becomes more and more noticeable. But now the options are overwhelming! Do I keep my natural hair color? Or do I brighten it? Or go for something completely different? And I find myself falling for hair color stereotypes as I weigh the options. Will I have more fun and be more relaxed as a blonde? Or should I darken my hair to be taken more seriously? Or go red for some fiery mystery? I hate the stereotypes, because they don’t even describe my closest friends. And yet stereotypes are what I’m emotionally basing my hair color decision on.
Does anyone have a better framework to make this decision?
We are --
We work hard; we play hard too.
And we drive our husbands crazy --
We can't all be trophy wives.