Take charge advice for work and play (roughly) every Thursday
I’m hosting a dance party for a group of my girlfriends next weekend. I’ve got a kickin’ mix, some chex mix, and some beer. What am I missing?
It sounds like you have the essentials. But to really make the dance party memorable, pick up a black light, disco ball, glo sticks, bottles of water, and some sweet cocktail mixers. I would advise swapping the beer for pitchers of apple-tinis. Be sure that the dance floor is adequate, so you can get down without fear of knocking over a vase or lamp. Also, it is probably wise to alert (or invite!) your neighbors so they don’t prematurely end your fun with a call to the authorities.
I have a problem. I work with a woman about 15 years my senior. She came to the law later in life than the traditional associate, after several years teaching. She’s lovely, smart, and knows her job backwards and forward. However, her professional appearance, or lack thereof, is holding back her career. Her version of business casual looks like a weekend at the farmer’s market. Or the farm. Is it my place to tell her to step it up?
No. No it is not your place. If she’s good at her job, and you are not her immediate supervisor, there’s nothing to say. Hopefully, she’ll get a whiff of the culture and naturally start dressing the part. If you want to be ambitious, you can invite her shopping on your lunch hour. Or mention sales at age and career appropriate stores, like Talbots, Ann Taylor, or maybe even Chicos.
However, if she doesn’t catch on to the culture after a reasonable amount of time and you are in a position of power, you have an obligation to point out what she needs to do to in order to get ahead. Assuming of course she wants to get ahead. It is entirely possible that years of teaching did not provide the structure and professionalism that she is expected to be at now as a lawyer and she simply doesn’t know what business casual looks like.
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